Regardless of the hassle, frustration, and hair pulling we may do during the teenage years, we LOVE our teens!
Wanna know what we have discovered?
IF you have teenagers you have probably noticed that around 12-13 years of age, your new teen has serious issues with older siblings! Actually, I should say, your older sibling has serious issues with their younger sibling.
It has been seen in our home over and over again!
We are on teen #4 & #5 and are discovering there is an unspoken law that must be obtained before younger teen can enter the TRUE teenage kingdom in your home!
By the world's standards, our 6th and 7th grader ARE teenagers.
By sibling standards, they must earn the right to be called teenager in the home.
It is a serious growing pain that we have discovered happens to all upcoming teenagers with other siblings!
We have worked hard over the years to train our children that we are to love, honor, and respect our siblings.
- Teasing unjustly - is NOT allowed.
- Putting your sibling down - is NOT allowed.
- Rolling your eyes,
- talking under your breath,
- and ignoring your fellow family member - is NOT allowed.
It eventually comes! Praise the Lord!
And when it does, ALL is well in the home again.
until it does, mom, dad, teen, and younger teen will be in a fight for dominance day after day, after day! Mom and dad will be frustrated! Older sibling will be angry! Younger sibling will be confused, sad, and determined to find their footing in this new stage of life!
To all parents out there...take one day at a time.
You will spend countless hours helping older teen see what they refuse to see....that their sibling has grown up.
You will also have to continually check on the younger teen to see how they are holding up to unjust pressure. You will be teaching them that we can't change others...we can only work on our response. AND...that they will need to find their acceptance in Christ, NOT in the approval of others!
AND remember, THIS shall pass! Unless you have more kids going to be entering the teenage world.
(Notice 6th and 7th grader on the outside looking in?)
But we are well on our way to having all teenagers recognized as teenagers in our home!
(well, until the next batch comes of age...haha!)
The years ahead will be so sweet to watch these friendships grow and grow!
YES...it is worth the frustration as we raise our children!