I am discovering something with teens. (I'm no expert but I do have experience!)
Although they are connected, they chat, they communicate, they may not offer information to you.
I'm learning to not take it personal and I am learning to ask more questions. I pray for God to prompt the right questions but for the most part we just need to seize our moments to talk.
Our kids have things to say but they may not know how to bring it up. I think ultimately they want to talk to us even though they roll their eyes and sigh. I'm learning to push through those moments and not let them trip me into a detour where I end up stopping the conversation out of frustration.
I have lots to learn.
I won't always catch when they need to talk.
I may not ask the right questions.
But I hope with a little practice of making the effort, taking the time, and grabbing our moments that our house will be full of teen/parent conversations.
How can we help them navigate this fallen planet unless we are able to speak into their struggles?
How can we speak into their struggles if we are unaware of their issues?
How will we encourage them through their issues if we have no relationship with our teens?
How can we have a relationship with our teens if there is no conversations?
Are you asking questions?
A major point to consider when asking questions.....Don't ask the questions where you expect certain answers! Think of your teen as a first date. You know the ones when you are dying to get to know this other person in your life and you really seek to know WHO they are. IF you have teens then you have this other person whom you have never met. Because although they resemble the child you birthed, burped, and fed, they now have a personality that is unique from you.
They have thoughts about their world.
They have insights that might intrigue you.
They have questions they want asked.
Are you asking them? Or do they only hear from their peers?